Old-Fashioned Advice Can Save Modern Romance

Nokulinda Mkhize’s new book Kitchen Wisdom offers timeless guidance for love and relationships. The book is out now, and the public is invited to the launch on Saturday, 15th February, at 2 PM at Book Circle Capital, 27 Boxes, Melville, Johannesburg.

 

In a world where modern romance often feels like a game of mixed signals, unrealistic expectations, and shallow connections, sangoma and author Mkhize brings old-school wisdom to the table with her new book, Kitchen Wisdom: What We Hate to Hear But Need to Know About Men and Romance.

 

 

“This book comes from my observation as a sangoma of 17 years that many women were trying to juggle being successful modern women while wishing to find a decent and nurturing adult romantic relationship with a man,” Mkhize explained.

 

“Women are complaining that *’amadoda awayekeki’* (men are irresistible), but at the same time, modern romance is bringing them enormous pain and heartache. This confusion leads women to make terrible compromises to secure a man’s affections,” Mkhize said.

 

Mkhize emphasizes that while society has evolved, the human heart remains rooted in timeless emotions. “Just because we are modern in our lives does not mean our hearts are modern in their feelings.”

 

Drawing on the timeless advice of mothers, aunties, and grandmothers, Kitchen Wisdom is a heartfelt and practical guide for women who are done with fairy tales and false promises.

 

Mkhize’s book calls for revisiting the tried-and-true lessons from loving communities of wise women.

 

“A lot of the advice about men that we heard in the kitchen from the women in our lives remains true even today. They’ve spotted the patterns, learned the lessons, and emerged wiser,” says Mkhize.

 

Kitchen Wisdom shares principles that women need to be familiar with to make better decisions in romance. These include:

– Never Chase A Man*
– Do Not Do Wife Things Before You Are The Wife

It also warns about “Fake Friends and Frenemies” who destroy women’s communities of support—essential for women to have lives beyond male interest and attention.

 

Mkhize emphasizes that *Kitchen Wisdom* ultimately reminds us that strong relationships with other women are complementary and necessary for having a balanced view of romance.

 

Kitchen Wisdom is the Valentine’s book you need to get for yourself—to affirm your own direction—or for the niece, sister, or friend who has been trying to make sense of the rollercoaster of romance in her life.

 

A must-read for any woman ready to embrace love with both her heart and her head. Let the wisdom of the kitchen guide you to a more fulfilling romantic life.

The book is available at:

– [https://guided.africa/shop](https://guided.africa/shop)
– Book Circle Capital, 27 Boxes, Melville
– Amazon.com
– Kindle

 

About the Author

Nokulinda Mkhize is a respected sangoma, writer, and speaker known for her insights into love, relationships, and cultural wisdom. Her work bridges the gap between tradition and modernity, offering guidance rooted in deep ancestral knowledge.